How To Talk to Your Liberal Friends About JK Rowling

Focus on feminism and free speech

Are you overjoyed by the courage that author JK Rowling has demonstrated, but sad that you don’t know how to talk about it with your liberal friends? Here is a handy, dandy guide to dealing with that difficult friend, family member, or co-worker.

It’s easy. Really! Just stick to the biggest issue that Rowling has raised: the systematic silencing of women who dare to speak about their gender heresies.


“I support a woman’s right to speak her mind.”


Just that. Eight little words.

If someone starts using words like “intersex,” or pontificating about trans kids, or pretending they have read Judith Butler, ignore the attempted solipsistic goalpost shifting and calmly reply:

“I support a woman’s right to speak her mind.”


If they call you racist for believing in human sexual dimorphism, make this your reply.

If they can’t believe you have turned out to be such a TERF, make this your reply.

Indeed, this is your new, one-size-fits-all reply to any argument, of any kind, made in any conversation, about JK Rowling’s views on anything:

“I support a woman’s right to speak her mind.”


Be expressionless, if you can manage it.

Try to maintain a neutral tone.

Drain away as much sense of drama as possible.

If the respondent tries to goad you, that means it is working! Stay focused.

Take no interest in whatever they want to argue about. Do not respond to diversions.

Stick to the basic proposition that women are human beings who have the right to speak their minds in public.

That’s it.

This technique is called “the Gray Rock method.” It is especially useful when dealing with narcissists and other manipulative personality types, which says a lot about the nature of the ideology at issue here.

However, if someone is genuinely curious to know more about the silencing of women, or what on earth you mean by that, you should be prepared with examples.

You might follow up with a flurry of names — Maya Forstater, Megan Murphy, Lisa Littman, the list goes on.

However, I think it is far more effective to tell people what women have encountered in recent years whenever they gather to speak gender thoughtcrimes aloud.

When cancellation and deplatforming won’t work, things get nasty.

Large crowds of (mostly) men have shouted threats and abuse, blocked doors, and beaten on the windows of buildings to silence and intimidate women in the US and UK.

Crowds of (mostly) men screamed threats and profanities at women going into the Seattle Public Library in February, banging on the windows and interrupting the event in an attempt to silence them.

These facts belie the carefully-cultivated image of fragile trans people being emotionally shattered by the words of mean feminists.

A trans woman assaulting Julie Bindel on her way out of a meeting is not the story that trans activists want liberals to see, so it is the very story you must tell them.

Speak for women being escorted out of venues through secret doors to avoid attacks by violent men who say they are women.

Talk about the bomb threats and death threats and intimidation, sure, but limit how much you put on a person’s plate at one time.

The good liberal is just carrying the transgender water because it is what they have been told to do. Be patient, for they are involved in a great struggle that they don’t even understand yet.

About the author

Former progressive activist declared heretic by his former movement for refusing to believe that "woman" is a costume or a feeling and recognizing male pattern behavior as male even when it wears lipstick and high heels. Just because you hate something I say does not make it hate speech.
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