Are male bathrooms rapey or not?
I was in the midst of a wide-ranging, daylong debate with a trans man yesterday when Graham Linehan took note of this exchange. I wanted to take a screengrab of it myself right away, but by the time I finished, Linehan had already tweeted one of his own.
Mr Linehan is a TV comedy writer from the UK who has spoken out against the new gender orthodoxy for the better part of two years and paid a professional price for his thoughtcrimes.
(I’m ashamed to say I had never watched any of Linehan’s shows before, so I started on Father Ted last night. I am two episodes into the show and it is quite funny.)
The exchange Linehan captured took place in the midst of a conversation that began with my most frequently asked question in the gender debate: can you name one thing about any “gender identity” that is not a performative sexist stereotype? While discussions always begin at this point, they may go on for days without anyone ever answering the question. I think that is because no answer exists.
In the same way, discussions around restrooms and gender identity invariably devolve into angry wailing that you must hate trans people and want them to die. Who knew that using the wrong bathroom could be so deadly?
With the verbal stakes raised to such screeching heights, critical thinking disappears and cognitive dissonance stands out: the men’s toilet is a violent, rapey hell on earth —unless your argument needs it to not be, in which case it suddenly changes.